This is part 2 of a 2-part practice. Part 1 of the practice you find right here!
So! Part 1 is done, and by now you have an insight into how you experience pleasant events and how you feel when thinking back and describing that pleasant event. Isn’t it powerful how we can evoke real pleasant sensations and thoughts in our body just by remembering something pleasant? Can you perhaps find ways to use that in your day to day life? Perhaps there a moment where you feel nervous or worried, then see if it helps you to dwell for some time on a positive memory. The positive memories can remind you of the power that you really hold!
Part 2! For the next 7 days we will practice the same BUT instead of focusing on pleasant events we turn towards unpleasant events!
Yes! That’s a good question. Isn’t it best to focus on positive things in your life you might be thinking? I thought the same!
Pleasant events can turn into unpleasant events. If we get too attached to life feeling pleasant, we will suffer more when unpleasant things happens.
Here I am not referring to serious stuff like death, illness, violence or abuse! These things we must grieve, try and stop and move ourselves away from! No mater what side we stand on in these horrible situations, we must reach for support and get out of the situation!
But with that said, many of us get so attached to life being pleasant. We always want to be perfectly warm, perfectly clean, neat, eat something we like and that sooth our tastebuds. We want to come across perfect, being on time, look good, do well, succeed and make people around us think that we are smart and faultless. This makes it so much harder for us to handle when things aren’t going the way we planned it or when things change.
Life isn’t giving us positive and negative experiences, we add those emotions ourselves. So by engaging in this second part I am confident that you will get an insight into your way of experiencing unpleasant moments in your life and rethink them as well. Perhaps even view your emotions and feelings as simply emotions and feelings, and not let them define you. You have the emotions and feelings for some time and then they go away. This practice will help you to feel pleasant with unpleasant moment. It gives you a calm mind to view the situations your are in and make the best decisions!
Chose unpleasant experiences that aren’t too big! Go for something like burning your tongue on your tea or feeling cold. Chose experiences that you are confident that you can overcome and change afterwards. Are there something in your life that is so painful and you can’t sit with, then don’t chose that as a focus. Focus on unpleasant moments rather than sad and devastating experiences. Notice the small things that tips you off somehow, maybe an experience or a conversations or traffic annoys you and gets you feeling angry and observe how you experience this in your body, perhaps even how long you can feel the after waves of those negative emotions in your body and mind.
Perhaps after the practice you sit with an uncomfortable negative feeling. Some days you will be able to let the negative feeling leave your body smoothly, other times it might be harder. Those days when it is harder finish the practice by thinking of one moment, person or experience in your life that you are deeply grateful for. Really see that moment, person or re-live that experience in your mind. Gratefulness has the power to move negativity and bring in awe, calmness, confidence and a sense of feeling fortunate!
Happy practice ! I look forward to read your experiences. If you feel the call to email me,do it! I love you hear from you! My email is firstname.lastname@example.org!😊
Here is the form you need for this second part of the practice: